It sounds dramatic -- and thats how it felt this morning when W went in for monitoring after getting a smiley on the OPK this morning. We were supposed to be doing a "trigger" this cycle but it looks like that wont be necessary or even possible since she "ovulated" early (Day 12). Blood work will tell us if she a) already ovulated (possible as she has ovulated as early as Day 11) or b) didnt/wont ovulate at all this cycle. Both feel disappointing, but of course the latter is even more so. FFF wouldn't ever do ultrasounds so we dont know if this has happened before (either a or b), but at least it does shed some light on why, if we have been inseming 24-36 hours AFTER the peak, we werent having any luck. GRRR. The build up to this day, and then *nothing* feels overwhelmingly crushing....
Seven months in and we are *burnt* out -- We didn't want to have kids too close together but we also wanted to have #2 before W finished her doctorate - at this point we have 2 more months before we have missed that window. The sane course might be to hang up our syring for a few months and try again in the Spring when this *crazy* semester is over for her, and when we could be confident that #2 wouldn't come right as she was hopefully starting a new job next Fall. That would be the rational approach -- plus she would probably get paid maternity leave -- but the idea of being out on leave your second semester at a new job feels overwhelming to her. And there is that part of the brain that is caught up in this insane TTC game -- that brain says - JUMP ON THE IVF TRAIN..NOW.
We both waiver between these options - feeling both satisfied and happy with our life as it is, our Iz, our routines and the new adventures on the near horizon (going on the academic market, conferences, Izzys new school and trips!) but we are also anxious to finish up the TTC and diaper-phase of our lives, plus we were hoping to have kids less than 3 years apart...thoughts? advice? commiseration?
Seven months in and we are *burnt* out -- We didn't want to have kids too close together but we also wanted to have #2 before W finished her doctorate - at this point we have 2 more months before we have missed that window. The sane course might be to hang up our syring for a few months and try again in the Spring when this *crazy* semester is over for her, and when we could be confident that #2 wouldn't come right as she was hopefully starting a new job next Fall. That would be the rational approach -- plus she would probably get paid maternity leave -- but the idea of being out on leave your second semester at a new job feels overwhelming to her. And there is that part of the brain that is caught up in this insane TTC game -- that brain says - JUMP ON THE IVF TRAIN..NOW.
We both waiver between these options - feeling both satisfied and happy with our life as it is, our Iz, our routines and the new adventures on the near horizon (going on the academic market, conferences, Izzys new school and trips!) but we are also anxious to finish up the TTC and diaper-phase of our lives, plus we were hoping to have kids less than 3 years apart...thoughts? advice? commiseration?
Oh no! I am so sorry to hear this! I can only imagine how incredibly frustrating this must be for you two.
ReplyDeleteIs it possible to do a quick IUI now (like right this second?). The egg can survive for up to 24 hours, and our clinic often does inseminations post ovulation.
Good luck with everything. We'll be thinking of you!
Thanks for your quick inspiration. W is called Dr. Wonderful (Dr. W) to see if she will do the insem today -- they wont until the bloodwork comes back (drat!) but at least its still a possibility...crossing our fingers.
DeleteNo advice but just wanted to commiserate! I'm sorry about this morning.
ReplyDeleteMore commiseration here. I'm in the midst of writing a post right now about how hard it is to not be able to make our family happen within the timeline we had planned. And even if I can't control it, it would be awfully nice to be able to predict how long it will take.
ReplyDeleteno advice, but something to think about. unless things have changed with the new health care legislation, FMLA doesn't kick in until after 12 months of employment.
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